The teacher says it was a great day. The same student walks in the door and falls apart. You sit in the conference and hear “we never see that here,” and it sounds like two different kids. It is not two kids. It is not bad parenting. It is the bill for a day of holding it together. After-school collapse is school data. The two-kid problem Andrea Loewen Nair, a counselor and parenting educator, named what parents kept telling her: kids who hold it in all day and come undone on