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www.autismdigest.com | February 2023 – April 2023

W hen I was in elementary school during the 1950’s, all children were taught basic social skills the same way. When I visited a friend’s house, and I made a table manner’s mistake, I was corrected by my friend’s mother.


The methods and rules were the same at home, at the neighbors, and at school. All corrections were calm. There was no screaming or yelling.


1. Use Teachable Moments – When a mistake in social manners is made, never scream “NO, stop it, quit it” or “cut it out.” Instead, give the instruction in a calm voice. Some examples are:


• Eating mashed potatoes with my hands – RESPONSE – Use your fork

• Wiping my mouth with my hand – RESPONSE – Use your napkin

• I forgot to say please or thank you – RESPONSE – You forgot to say “please” or “thank you.”

• Stuck my tongue out at a person – RESPONSE – Put tongue back in your mouth. That is rude behavior.


2. Most important skills taught under age 8 included:

• Learning how to take turns. This was taught with a board game. When I got a little older, the whole family played cards. Lessons learned from turn taking in board games can be applied

to taking turns doing activities as a family. When the family went to a movie, I had to take turns with my sister picking the movie. Another example would be choosing a restaurant or a store to visit.


• Saying “please” and “thank you.”


• Shaking hands and greeting people. It was demonstrated like teaching a person in a foreign country as to how to behave. Mother and teachers demonstrated the correct distance, looking in the eye and the amount of hand pressure. I practiced my skills by being party hostess when my mother invited guests for dinner.


• Shopping and learning the value of money. I was given 50 cents a week to buy things I


wanted, such as comics, How to Use 1950’s Methods for Teaching Social Skills to Children that Impacted Me balsa wood toy airplanes, kites, and ice cream bars. These were items that

if I wanted them, I had to buy them myself. My favorite toy airplane cost 69 cents so I had to have two weeks of allowance to buy it. Comics were 10 cents, and a kite and string were 20 cents. Today, these prices would be higher, but I learned the value of money from my purchases. I also learned that I had to wait to save to get the 69 cents airplane. I also had to do all the interactions with the store staff. Mom stayed away, when I made my purchases.


• My ability in art was always encouraged. My teachers and mother encouraged me to draw many different things.


3. Excessive praise is bad.


When I was very young, Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) methods were used to teach me to talk and lots of praise was used. This was required to get my speech started. By age four, I had learned to talk, so ABA methods were phased out.


After I learned to talk, constant praise was stopped. Praise was reserved for something really special such as a really fabulous art project or singing at a concert.


The following activities and behaviors were not praised. In the 1950’s, children were expected to do the following. These may not work for a nonverbal child.

  • Be on time for meals, religious programs, workshop, or school bus pickup

  • Make your bed

  • Dressing myself. Before I went to bed, I was taught to lay out the clothes I was going to wear the next day. I started to do this at age five.

  • Getting up on time

  • Being polite. Saying “please” when making a request and thanking another person for doing something I requested. These were always emphasized. In many situations, saying thank you was a form of praise. At the dining room table, my sister would ask me to pass the serving dish of green beans. When I passed it, she said “thank you.” To effectively teach children, the parents also have to practice good manners and say “please” and “thank you.”

4. Temper Tantrums


When I had a temper tantrum at home or at school, the penalty was no TV for one night. Mother and my elementary school teachers worked as a team. If I had a temper tantrum at home, she put me in my room and let me scream it out. Thirty minutes later, when I was calm, she invited me back to join the family, but there was “no TV tonight.” Mother always handled it calmly.


5. Oppositional Behavior. Provide


choices to help prevent oppositional behavior when a child always says “No.” Below are some examples:

  • You can do your homework either after school or after dinner

  • You can wear your blue shirt or your white one. I was allowed to pick out the clothes I wanted to wear from the clothes that were in the drawer.

  • Video games needed to be limited to one hour a day and two hours a day on weekends. Give the child a choice of activities s/he can do when they are not playing video games. They could choose between playing outside with kites and airplanes or adding to their rock collections. Both my sister and I had extensive rock collections that we kept in the garage. I spent hours doing airplane and kite design experiments. We also did creative craft projects, such as making abstract art by gluing painted pieces of pasta to cardboard. Another time, my sister and I decorated our trikes with gold paint. 


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